Last week, I shared with you my favorite interview stories framework.

But what happens once you land that dream company interview, you’ve done everything you can to stand out in the process, you’re in the final stages, and you’re realllllly hoping it will work out.

You get overly attached. It consumes your thinking.

This leaves you:

• Feeling nervously hopeful before the interview
• Overthinking what you said during it
• Anxiously checking your email for next steps
• Distracted from taking action on other opportunities
• Creative energy gets zapped and doubt creeps in

As a high achiever who works hard to get what you want, it's easy to get stuck in this trap.

When you've done everything you can, the only thing left to do is: Let go.

Members of my community are blazing through to final rounds and it's out of their hands at this point, so we’ve been talking a lot about THE ART OF DETACHMENT.

If you’re familiar with manifestation, you’re already warmed up on the concept of detachment (and you’re my people — check out this podcast I did).

The more you can detach from the outcome:

• The more ease and flow you will experience
• The less pressure you feel
• The better you perform
• The happier you will be

... and crazy enough, the more likely it is to work out in your favor.

This energetic shift is critical in the job search. Your "I NEED IT" energy radiates through every communication you write & conversation you have. Start practicing detachment to be surprised by how much easier it all feels.

Here are 5 practical tips to help you detach

1. What You Focus On Expands

If an interview didn’t go quite as planned:

• Instead of spiraling about what you could’ve done differently…
• Ask yourself: What are you proud of?
• Write it down! Get specific about what went well!
• Then neutrally note what you’d like to improve next time (no judgment)

If it went SUPER well?

Stay cautiously optimistic! It’s great to feel good about it, but remember not to put all your eggs in one basket. Over-investing your emotional energy in 1 opportunity leads to stress.

2. Neutralize the Fear

We attach to the outcome because we fear it won't work out. We want to avoid the uncomfortable emotions associated with the unfavorable outcome (even if that baseline is where we are today).

Feelings only last for about 90 seconds. Try this:

• Imagine that the worse scenario happens
• Feel the feelings associated with it
• Can you hold it? Yep, you can
• Remind yourself, “I am okay"

You’d be fine. You’d move on and take the next action... the same way you have when all the past opportunities didn't work out.

Of course — keep visualizing your success and expect positive outcomes to keep your vibes high, but neutralize the fear by knowing you can handle whatever happens next.

3. “This or Something Better”

We often get super attached to an exciting opportunity because we think “THIS MUST BE IT!”

But what if something even better is coming along? And any “no” is actually protecting you from something you can’t see right now?

Always go into any opportunity with this mindset: “This or something better”

The expectation that if this isn’t it, it wasn’t the right thing. Remember:

What is meant for you will never miss you. 💫

Now, let's get tactical:

4. A Watched Pot Never Boils…

Stop playing the email refresh game.

You don’t order something from Amazon and check every second that it’s coming, right?

You KNOW it’s coming, you have faith it’ll show up. The Universe/God is the same way.

Constant checking is “I need it” energy.

The goal is to move from: NEEDING to WANTING to KNOWING the right opportunity will work out for you.

When you have faith the right thing will work out for you, you don't need to constantly watch to see if it will.

5. …BUT Multiple Pots Boil Over

It takes forever if you're waiting for 1 pot to boil... but the second you start cooking up a big meal, it seems like everything needs your attention all at once.

Make sure you've got multiple pots on the burner.

What does this mean for your job search?

• Continue your top-of-funnel efforts
• Entertain other interview opportunities
• Keep up strategic networking conversations
• Take breaks. Do things outside of your job search

Don’t let this 1 opportunity hijack 100% of your headspace. Stay busy.

Quick aside here — Feeling stuck in your career is a spooky situation. I don’t want you to stay there.

I’m opening up 3 Power Hour spots today. I don’t usually offer 1-off coaching sessions. This is your chance to get my eyes on your career targets, LinkedIn/elevator pitch, interview stories, job search strategy — or help you bust through the mindset blocks keeping you stuck in that role you know isn’t right anymore.

My last Power Hour client just sent me this exciting update, “I got the job a few weeks ago. This was the role I prepped with you for. I truly couldn’t have done it without you.”

First come, first served. Happy Halloween! 🎃

Quick Reminder Before Your Next Interview

“I’ve done all the preparation I can. Now I’m fully present and see what happens.”

Sometimes we don’t know exactly why something doesn’t work out — and that's okay!

You get to choose your perspective. Tell yourself whatever story gives you peace of mind.

(If you're not making it to late stage interviews, book a call. Let's see how I can help)

Stay detached!